Domestic violence is a pattern of many behaviors directred at achieving and maintaining power and control over an intimate partner, such as:  physical violence, forced sexual relations, emotional abuse, isolation of the victim, finanical abuse, intimidation, and coercion and threats.

Identifying Abusive Relationships

Does your partner: 

  • Embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?

  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?

  • Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?

  • Stop you from seeing or talking to friends or family?

  • Take your money or Social Security, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?

  • Make all the decisions?

  • Prevent you from working or going to school?

  • Threaten to committ suicide if you leave?

  • Tell you you're a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?

  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it's your fault, or even deny doing it?

  • Destroy your property  or threaten to kill your pets?

  • Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons?

  • Shove you, slap you, strangle you, or hit you?

  • Force you to have sex?

  • Force you to drop charges?

  • Threaten to kill you?



If you answered YES to even ONE of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. 


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